When did getting naked become something we rush through?
Clothes come off, they land beside the bed, and we move on to the part we have decided counts as sex.
But what if getting naked is part of the sex?
There can be incredible anticipation in slowly undressing someone.
A button undone.
A shirt gently pulled from their shoulders.
A hand brushing newly exposed skin.
A pause simply to look at them before continuing.
Undressing someone gives us an opportunity to notice their body, to kiss and touch the skin we uncover, and to let anticipation build.
Being the person who is undressed can be just as powerful.
There is vulnerability and excitement in allowing someone to see your body and having them take their time with it. To look. To touch. To appreciate.
Maybe this is what we miss when we treat foreplay simply as preparation for the “main event.”
Kissing, touching, teasing, oral pleasure and getting undressed don’t have to be steps on the way to sex.
They can be sex.
Sometimes slowing down and enjoying everything along the way can be every bit as exciting as where we eventually end up.
So the next time the clothes start coming off, perhaps don’t rush.
Take your time.
Notice.
Enjoy.
Let anticipation have some room to grow.
Sometimes getting naked is sex.
A Question to Carry With You
What might change about your experience of sex if getting undressed became something to enjoy instead of something to get through?